Partnered Sex

I’d divide your questions into two groups here: the things you need to ask someone else, and the things you need to ask your girlfriend (and listen to her about). Let’s start with the first group. Per spermicides, in general, if you can avoid using them, you want to avoid using them. Not only are…

Anal douche is more commonly referred to as an enema. Enemas are solutions that are injected into the lower bowel to induce defecation through one means or another. There are many different kinds of enemas, those including things such as milk and molasses, fleet, cone, etc. Using an enema before…

Learning to communicate with partners about any topic can be tricky. But working out those conversations about sex can be even more difficult. It’s really good that you want to discuss things and be open with your partner! Here’s the thing though, you can’t make someone talk about anything they…

In some ways, my answer to this one are going to be similar to an answer I gave earlier today, to a guy asking a very similar question here. Ultimately, this all really depends on the why of his reticence. Has he had any previous experience with another partner with cunnilingus? If so, I’d suggest…

You know, even if it DID or does have to do with feces and the scent of feces it’d not be anything to be ashamed of. Really, your friend is being a dope. If we know anything about human sexuality, we know that what’s most normal is difference and variance, and that it’s exceptionally difficult to be…

Sounds like you’re in a difficult spot, but it also sounds like you’re in a really good headspace to work it out, so let’s see what we can do. Some of why your partner is okay with intercourse may indeed be because it’s enjoyable for her, though it sounds like so far it hasn’t been very enjoyable…

1. First and foremost, understand that terms like “clitoral orgasm” and “vaginal orgasm” aren’t actually sensible, and are also really outdated. Orgasm happens primarily in the nervous system, as well as the cardiovascular system. We feel its effects genitally, and it can be – and often is –…

You know, if you’ve little to no interest or feelings of strong desire for the physical and sexual aspects of sex, you aren’t as likely to reap big positive emotional benefits, either. For certain, partnered sex can and often does provide emotional intimacy for people, but when the only part one…

It often takes a while for any new partner – especially when both partners are also new to sex in general – to get the hang of what works for a given partner with any given sexual activity. So, one thing to know is that it’s normal for things to just take time. But time alone won’t tend to that…

As I’m sure you’ve discovered, porn rarely answers one’s questions about sex in a very thorough fashion. A big part of that is probably because porn is fiction and fantasy portrayed in a way that will (supposedly) appeal to the audience. In real life, people don’t have the (dubious) “benefit” of…