Partnered Sex

Surviving in the sexual wilds – and having your great adventures be just that, great – involves some basic smarts, skills and conscious effort. Let’s see what we can do to help make all your trails happy ones.

The good news is that there’s no secret to bringing up unconventional sex acts with a partner; the same basic communication skills that are needed to talk about any other kinds of sex are what’s needed here. The bad news is…well, that there’s no secret to it! The simple answer to your question is…

Rule #1 of partnered sex: no one is entitled to any kind of sex with another person. Safe, healthy, pleasurable sex can only happen when both people are on the same page, and they respect each other’s boundaries and desires. Honestly, what I read in your question are many feelings of anger and…

If by sex, you mean intercourse, you probably can’t. Even if you could, you or your partner probably wouldn’t enjoy it: the idea intercourse is something people do – or even can do, or would enjoy if they could – for an hour or two just doesn’t square with reality. A lot of people have unrealistic…

There are a couple of things that I want to talk about here. Obviously, the fact that you’re not enjoying sex with your current partner is the big one, but I also want to address what sounds, from what you’ve written, like an assumption about what it means to be dominant or submissive, and a…

This is a web comic by Isabella Rotman showing how to make your own strap-on harness, originally published on Oh Joy Sex Toy and republished here with permission. Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4 Page 5 DIY Full Cover Harness copyright Isabella Rotman 2015

What’s so scary about asking when someone else may say no? Rejection. Read on to dial down the fear factor and learn to accept no like a pro.

Sometimes sex is amazing. Other times, it’s nice. Then there are the times it sucks. How do you deal, and what’s the hidden value in not-at-all-awesome sex?

When people are new to sex in general, or with a new partner – in your case, both! – it’s totally typical to find they have a hard time reaching orgasm, that it happens more quickly than they’d like, or to experience other ways where sexual responses either aren’t what was expected or what they…

Our rundown of do-it-yourself sex toys you can make and use with a partner.