Partnered Sex

Hooray for thinking about what you might want or feel ready for in intimate or dating relationships before you pursue them! So often people just kind of passively fall into relationships and only then try and figure what they want and need. It’s not impossible to do it that way, and there are some…

When it comes to sex, women are often portrayed as nothing but warm vessels there to validate male partners’ egos. The widespread cultural acceptance of a woman pursuing pleasure for her own sake is a relatively new one (at least in West’s modern history), and we’ve still got a long way to go. It’s no small wonder that many women have a difficult time asking for what they want in general, let alone when it comes to sex.

Adjusting to a shared living situation where you and your boyfriend will probably have roommates and neighbors close by can be a challenge, but giving some thought to this beforehand, as you’re doing, will go a long way towards helping you keep up your enjoyable sex life without alienating the folks…

Having a parent walk in on us when we’re doing something sexual is one of those things that is awkward at best and awful at worst. Our families, while not the only source of messages about sex, are definitely one source that leaves a big impression. So, it’s not surprising that, even though you’ve…

Kissing and snuggling sure seem awfully underrated. Check out why we think what some folks consider only “first base” can be home runs all their own.

I don’t think these questions are silly or foolish. Most of us, and I count myself in this group, don’t get many opportunities to learn about our bodies, or much about sex, and find ourselves either figuring things out as we go along or searching for information to help us. Sometimes that’s even the…

What positions are there for sex? How do you do them? Which is the best one? And why does everyone seem to think positioning is so complicated when it’s really not?

Hi Emma, Reading this, I get a strong sense that you expect to be judged for your age and your sexual choices. I have no intension of judging you, and I’ll get back to why in a bit. First, though, I want to answer your questions. It’s okay that your boyfriend doesn’t want oral sex. I know you want…

Does sex feel like it’s “just happening,” rather than something you’re actively doing? Here’s how to change that.

It sounds like you have two different concerns in your question: that it is not normal for you to not be experiencing pleasure (or much sensation at all) while receiving oral sex, and that you also don’t want your boyfriend to feel bad about that. Let’s talk about the first part of your question…