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Hans Lindahl is here to fill you – and anyone else who wants to know – in on being intersex and being in sexual and romantic relationships as an intersex person. From figuring out if you’re intersex, to communicating with potential or current partners about being intersex, to managing and enjoying your sexual life, you’ll find clear, affirming and accurate information by and expressly for intersex people in this series.
The short answer is this: intersex bodies are built differently, particularly compared to the usual paths people take through puberty. It’s up to you to decide if the word intersex feels right.
“How do I enjoy sex?” is hardly a question that’s unique to intersex people, but some of the answers to that question are different than they might be for people who aren’t intersex.
Sharing sensitive personal information can feel scary, and you get to disclose on your own terms. This article is about telling a crush, date, or current partner that you are intersex — but the advice can work for any type of relationship.
