Identity

The idea that women who sexually express themselves in any number of ways – like something as simple as expressing sexual desires to a partner through words, be it in speech or text – are sluts, people without or with less value or only sexual value, “bad” women or any of the other crappy things…

Unchained’s question continued: Around the beginning of this year, I was walking to the bus stop after college and when I was waiting for the traffic lights to give me pass for some odd reason I remembered the article about asexuality I had read on the newspaper’s magazine… and then I remembered…

To start off with, I can assure you that you’re not the first person to be in this situation. So you don’t have to feel as though you’re the only straight person traveling in queer circles who’s ever felt uncomfortable with the way straightness is discussed. And believe me when I say the advice I’m…

It is absolutely okay to watch Crazy, Stupid Love (which is actually mostly about men in the first place!) or any other “chick flick” or romantic comedy that catches your eye or interest. Some types of movies are marketed more towards men or women, but that doesn’t mean people of other genders can’t…

Hi, bifabulous! Congrats on becoming more aware of your own sexuality! Sadly, you’re right: some people do harbor misconceptions and sexist notions about bisexual women. Racism and sexism added to the mix make the issue even thornier; as you said, there are a lot of harmful stereotypes about Asian…

When everyone seems to be so preoccupied with labels, it’s hard to really explain to someone that you’re a ‘genderqueer-gendernonconforming-demisexual-‘gay’-transman’ and not have them look at you funny.

I’m going to make probably the biggest understatement of the year: gender is complicated. As obvious a statement as that is, it’s still true, and I think it’s worth repeating. I think one thing a lot of people - even many gender-savvy folks or fellow trans people - sometimes forget is that there are…

Dating this wonderful person pushed me to think about some things in new and challenging ways. Here are some of my favorite lessons that I learned when I dated a woman.

One of the things that can be hard, when choosing to come out to parents, is the fact that you might feel like you have to educate them about gender issues, both on a general level and in terms of your own identity; this can make a process that might already feel overwhelming or stressful even harder to manage. Letting an organization that’s dedicated to this sort of education do some of the work for you can take some of that weight off of your shoulders.

I’m sorry to hear that things have been so strained between you and your girlfriend when it comes to your transition. Gender transition is a pretty intense experience; a good thing for you, to be sure, but it’s still full of a lot of changes in a relatively short period of time. And it can be tough…