sexuality

For most people, whether we're talking about sexual orientation or something else, trying to live a life as anything but yourself is more painful than living a life working to come to peace with something about yourself that you or others are uncomfortable with. Really, if you read the stories of...

Hey, Jamie. First things first: there are all of two or three countries in the world where it's even lawful for you to have intercourse at your age, and in most places, many other kinds of sex. If you're writing in from the states, there is no state in which you're at the age of consent. However you...

Our sexual fantasies really don't limit our actual, out-of-our-heads sexual experiences. Sexual fantasy and sexual reality are separate. Fantasy is influenced by reality, and reality can be influenced by fantasy if we choose, but they still are two very different things. For many people, much of...

It sounds like you're not confused at all to me: in fact, I hear you being really clear. You know he wants one thing, and you want something else. You know you don't want to do something he wants to do. In short, you know that the two of you want different things and that as it stands, there's no...

Hey Anon: I'm sorry about the loss of your Mom. Often Dads really can do just as good a job in terms of talking about these things, so if he's open to it, you might want to consider talking to him. But obviously, what's important is that you have someone to talk to you feel comfortable talking to...

Hey there, Naptha. You're right: while masturbation teaches us plenty about our own sexual responses, likes and dislikes, it IS very different from partnered sex. To boot, seems you're finding out one of the lessons a lot of folks often aren't prepared for with any new partner, and that's that with...

The exact same way he can tell about you: by asking him. Then you take one another at your word. If you don't feel you can, that's another issue entirely. I'm not sure why he needs to have asked you any more than once, unless the two of you aren't dating exclusively, and are seeing other people. If...

It strikes me as a bit odd to consider upping the ante to vaginal intercourse when as things are now, you're not feeling sexually satisfied, and when you also express strong reservations about it. I'd suggest that before you step it up to add a sexual activity which carries greater risks -- of...

Hey Kayo, Nothing to be embarrassed about I promise! Here are some answers: 1) When it comes to changing positions, most of the time nobody knows what position comes next. If you change position during sex (and lots and lots of people never do) you usually do it because one or the other partner...

Your partner has no way of knowing for sure that you've had an orgasm if you're a person with a vagina. None, save you telling them so. Sometimes, if your partners have their hands, mouths or genitals inside ours or right on them, they can feel some uterine and vaginal muscle contractions when we...