sexuality

Have all of your straight friends had sex with a guy if they’re girls, or with a girl if they’re guys? If not, how do they know they’re straight? See how silly that is? Hopefully they will, too. It’s not sage to make orientation something anyone needs to “prove” with sex for a whole lot of reasons…

When it comes to sex with and for only yourself – masturbation – it should be just like sex with a partner when it comes to if you do it or not. If it’s something you want to do and feel comfortable doing, then you can choose to do it. If it’s not something you want or don’t feel comfortable with…

(Michelle’s second post:) I previously sent you a question on what to do with my ex-boyfriend. Now it’s even worse. I don’t know if he’s being truthful or not, and I don’t know how to move on. He’s hurting me in every possible way. He had a pool party yesterday and my my best friend was there. My…

Life has scripts. Little socially-agreed plays that we enact rather than trying to figure out all our interactions from scratch every time. Many of them are very simple. There’s also scripts for sex. Unfortunately, the most common script out there is terrible.

I’m most interested in how you feel now about this, and separate from how you think everyone else would feel. Hopefully, if you haven’t identified your own feelings yet, my answer can give you some help doing that. So, values. Here’s the thing about values: they aren’t universal. They also aren’t…

I wish that I knew more about your relationship and your boyfriend than just this particular conflict. It’d also help to know what a word like “slutty” even means to him. After all, slut is one of those words that’s a lot like the word god: what it means to one person can be radically different than…

You know, anytime anyone says or feels that they literally hate someone’s body or body parts, my advice is going to be that it isn’t a good idea for the person with those feelings to be intimate with the person with that body. If we deeply disdain someone’s body parts, or anything big like that…

Although I think of myself as South Asian, I was born overseas and have always lived in a Western country. Our family still carries many of our traditional values from back home and we have a large community here. I came out to my parents around 3 years after having my own realizations. The impetus for this was that they had started to look for marriage partners for me.

Meyli’s question continued: Last night, he went out with a couple guy friends, and they went to a fastfood place for dinner. One of the workers, a middle-aged man, touched him (can I say he grabbed his ass?) innapropriately. He was really freaked out by that, obviously anyone would be. It was a…

My family is supportive of my life, as long as they get to ignore the queer part. I know they can’t handle it so I don’t talk about it with them. As for my community of colour, the only one I’ve ever really been a part of is my mom’s church family, and I know they wouldn’t be able to handle it either.