sex

Hey there, Naptha. You’re right: while masturbation teaches us plenty about our own sexual responses, likes and dislikes, it IS very different from partnered sex. To boot, seems you’re finding out one of the lessons a lot of folks often aren’t prepared for with any new partner, and that’s that with…

Our general body size earnestly has very, very little – and most often nothing at all – to do with the “tightness” or “looseness” of our vaginal openings and vaginas. Genital size, whether we’re talking about penises or vaginas, most typically does not correspond to overall body size. I’m not…

Jako: let’s work backwards with your questions. For starters, her itchiness may have been irritation from either the condom OR the spermicide. Spermicides are essentially dish soap, and genital tissue is delicate, so you can imagine that for a lot of people, it doesn’t feel so good. Since irritation…

It strikes me as a bit odd to consider upping the ante to vaginal intercourse when as things are now, you’re not feeling sexually satisfied, and when you also express strong reservations about it. I’d suggest that before you step it up to add a sexual activity which carries greater risks – of…

Hey Kayo, Nothing to be embarrassed about I promise! Here are some answers: 1) When it comes to changing positions, most of the time nobody knows what position comes next. If you change position during sex (and lots and lots of people never do) you usually do it because one or the other partner…

Hey, Jessie. You know, it’s normal for anyone, of any gender, and with any level (or lack) of sexual experience to feel attraction or a desire to have sex, and then to change your mind, or feel uncomfortable about pursuing sex, at any time, for any number of reasons. For instance, it may well be…

Most topical antibiotics state on the label that they aren’t to be used on mucous membranes, alas. But you can certainly check the label on any topical antibiotics you have around the house to see. So, with a genital injury – I’m assuming you mean you have an injury around your vaginal opening? –…

My guess would be that rather than missing “extras,” you’re missing basics. If any genital contact feels blah to you, or just like someone was patting you on the back, my first suggestion would be to make sure that when any kind of sex happens – even masturbation – you’re really feeling aroused…

Just so you know, while certainly, it’s more common to begin some sexual activity before your age (which you had), there still are plenty of people who have not had sexual intercourse at your age. And given that the age of first marriage has been increasing, in terms of folks waiting for all sex or…

Anon, it’s never wrong to not want to do any given sexual activity. Everyone has their own wants, needs and preferences, and you get to have yours just like anyone else. While it can take a little adjusting for sexual partners to find middle ground in terms of what both want and prefer, a partner…