sex

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  • Heather Corinna

A person’s height has no relationship to the size of their genitals – or, in your case, the length of the vaginal canal. The vaginal canal in any person isn’t even one static size, anyway: it changes. When we’re less aroused, the vaginal walls are tighter, and the back of the vagina and cervix are…

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  • Heather Corinna

What an awesome friend you are! Obviously, everyone who is waiting for sex, or a certain type of sex, can have different reasons for waiting. Too, a person’s reasons for waiting might change over time, or if a person originally had wanted to wait, they may not want to all that much at a certain…

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  • Heather Corinna

Sounds like you’re in a difficult spot, but it also sounds like you’re in a really good headspace to work it out, so let’s see what we can do. Some of why your partner is okay with intercourse may indeed be because it’s enjoyable for her, though it sounds like so far it hasn’t been very enjoyable…

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  • Heather Corinna

I’m sorry you had such a bad experience. However, please understand that that bad experience did not likely cause permanent changes to your vulva or vagina. While certainly, if you were tense or underlubricated, that could have caused a tear to the tissue of the vaginal corona, which may cause mild…

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  • Heather Corinna

Condoms are ONLY reliable birth control when they are used for ALL direct genital contact, from start to finish. If you have intercourse without a condom, and only put a condom on later on, then you can’t depend on condoms to protect you against pregnancy (or STIs), since it is possible for pre…

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  • Heather Corinna

1. First and foremost, understand that terms like “clitoral orgasm” and “vaginal orgasm” aren’t actually sensible, and are also really outdated. Orgasm happens primarily in the nervous system, as well as the cardiovascular system. We feel its effects genitally, and it can be – and often is –…

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  • Heather Corinna

One would hope that if you really liked someone for who they were that whatever their previous sexual experience was or was not would be irrelevant. Mostly, because it really is, save that any life experiences we have are a part of who we are. So, if you like someone, part of what you like about…

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  • Heather Corinna

So long as you know – not just by guessing, but via regular, complete reproductive health exams – that you’re in sound reproductive health, and so long as that abdominal pain is really only showing up after intercourse, the most likely culprit for that symptom would simply be that you’re not…

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  • Sarah Riley

Thankfully, there is no direct connection between one’s genitals and their mouth. So no, kissing (of any sort) will not lead to pregnancy. The right bits of anatomy are just not in the right location for that to occur. Similarly, there’s nothing about manual sex (‘fingering’) that could cause…

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  • Heather Corinna

It often takes a while for any new partner – especially when both partners are also new to sex in general – to get the hang of what works for a given partner with any given sexual activity. So, one thing to know is that it’s normal for things to just take time. But time alone won’t tend to that…