relationships

First off, I’m glad to hear that your relationship in general, including your sex life, sounds like it’s going well right now. That’s certainly a great place to start from! There’s no type of sex or orgasm that’s “better” or more appropriate for a certain point in a relationship than another. So if…

I don’t think these questions are silly or foolish. Most of us, and I count myself in this group, don’t get many opportunities to learn about our bodies, or much about sex, and find ourselves either figuring things out as we go along or searching for information to help us. Sometimes that’s even the…

I’m sorry to hear that things have been so strained between you and your girlfriend when it comes to your transition. Gender transition is a pretty intense experience; a good thing for you, to be sure, but it’s still full of a lot of changes in a relatively short period of time. And it can be tough…

What does desire feel like, and how does feeling desire – or not feeling it – have an impact on sex or masturbation? Is it okay to feel strong desire, low levels of desire, or even no desire? We aim to answer your most pressing questions on sexual or erotic desire.

frenchiemathwhiz’s question continued: I was standing by him because I’ve freaked out about stuff before, and I thought he was there for me. But apparently not. Anyway, we were each other’s first sexual partners—vaginal, oral, etc. I’m moving to a new city and a new job in a few weeks (something I…

I am sorry to hear about your stressful sex conundrum. Being in school can be a very stressful and sleep-deprived time, and I am sure that many people can relate to your situation, including myself. Stress is just one of those feelings that has a much larger impact than many people acknowledge: in…

Does sex feel like it’s “just happening,” rather than something you’re actively doing? Here’s how to change that.

elinor’s question continued: I know many people experience different romantic vs sexual attraction, and from talking to him, I feel like he is a little more sexually attracted to men, and a more romantically attracted to women. We also have a very friendly/open sort of relationship (we started off…

I’m sorry to hear that sex has been a disappointment. Let’s see if I can help shed some light on this for you. A partner cannot be a mind-reader. No one can, but being someone’s sexual partner doesn’t magically imbue them with that skill. There’s just no way your boyfriend can know what you’ve been…

People do say that people are ready for sex – and not just the first time, either – at different times, different ages and in different situations. And that’s absolutely right. Whether we do or don’t want any kind of sex at any given time, with any given person, in any given situation, and also…