identity

I ran a girls group with a group of teens between the ages of 10 and 17 for three years. Here are the ten biggest things I learned.

Being caught between more than one world can be a struggle, so here’s what to try.

Trust for our bodies is a two-way street just like trust is between people. Our bodies learn to trust us as we learn to trust them, and we often need to make some important changes to achieve this.

A key first step towards self-compassion is feeling safe from harm. We can achieve this by identifying what we need and believing we deserve it. No one is better suited to support ourselves than ourselves.

Actively listening to our bodies and what they’re trying to tell us often seems impossible, especially in 2025 when transgender and nonbinary people and our bodies are under attack. But it is still possible.

The short answer is this: intersex bodies are built differently, particularly compared to the usual paths people take through puberty. It’s up to you to decide if the word intersex feels right.

I am an autistic, genderfluid lesbian, and I experience these identifiers as tightly intertwined.

How does a person explore sexuality, sexual identity or sexual interactions without feeling awkward? There are loads of things you can do!

I did not feel ready to navigate possible transphobia alone, I needed backup. I was expecting to have that for this date via the person I was on the date with. Without her, I felt trapped in a restaurant where I felt other patrons looking at me or whispering about me. This was a steakhouse in the heart of Plano, Texas.

Gender identity can be a complex part of yourself to figure out. It’s easy to get in the weeds with gender any time you try and approach it from a new angle. Not everyone has access to things like transgender support groups, or other people in their lives willing to lend an ear. Journaling has been an incredibly helpful tool I’ve discovered in my own gender journey. Maybe it could help you, too?