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How do some of our readers, users and supporters feel about Scarleteen? They’re really, really into us. We try not to get too big a head about it, but over the years a whole lot of people have had a whole lot of really nice things to say about us. You can read some of therm here!

Let’s start with the biggest question: is it wrong to have sex with someone you’re not in a capital-R or romantic relationship? You know, all this wrong and right stuff is arbitrary and very personal. I’m sure there are some things for me in my sex and general life that are right as rain for me, but…

If we’re going to think of our genitals as big, any one of us, given the small range between them, we should think everyone’s genitals are big. We also need to accept that it’s ignorant or misinformed to think, presume or suggest that penises are big but vaginas are small, because we really are all about the same size. If thinking big is better for one sex, it’s also got to be better for the other. So, if you or someone else is going to go on about some big penis, you’d best get just as excited about the idea of a big vagina, and make having a big ol’Vagowski just as cool. And if you’re all hung up on the idea that the vagina be as small as it can possibly be, or is such a small thing, then you’ve got to accept that penises are small, too.

Virginity isn’t something physical we can “break.” And virginity isn’t your hymen: it’s an idea, or a set of values and concepts which varies from person to person, not a body part. In other words, you define what virginity is for yourself, or, if this is based in something religious, or a set of…

It’s not a bad thing when it isn’t a bad thing for you. NO consensual sexual activity is a bad thing, per the activity alone, when everyone involved WANTS to be doing it, and feels good physically and emotionally doing it. But you’re right: there are a lot of negative attitudes about anal sex and…

This is one of those questions where the only “right” answer is that it’s not wrong if it isn’t wrong for you. But I’ll give you more than that to work with. If it’s wrong, it’s a wrong thing that the vast majority of the population does at one time or another, most starting so young that we don’t…

The membrane you’re referring to is the hymen, also called the vaginal corona. When fully or partially present, the hymen consists of thin folds of tissue that partially cover the vaginal opening. However, the hymen is something that usually gradually wears away – rather than “breaking” – over…

For most people, whether we’re talking about sexual orientation or something else, trying to live a life as anything but yourself is more painful than living a life working to come to peace with something about yourself that you or others are uncomfortable with. Really, if you read the stories of…

The exact same way he can tell about you: by asking him. Then you take one another at your word. If you don’t feel you can, that’s another issue entirely. I’m not sure why he needs to have asked you any more than once, unless the two of you aren’t dating exclusively, and are seeing other people. If…

Absolutely! Understand that orgasm isn’t really a genital event: rather, it’s a whole body event, one that takes place primarily in your nervous system and cardiovascular system, but which we feel effects of in our genitals as well, and which genital sex often causes. So, your heart rate goes up…