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(Eoin's questions continued...) 1) Abstinence-until-marriage is not superior (this will also come up later with respect to "the parents" and other concerns with my girlfriend); is it such a big deal if I have sex with my girlfriend tomorrow, in a couple months, or several years from now, including...

There isn't anything TO do save to wait for when she does also want to have sex with you. Really, have a think about this. Would you want it any other way? Who would want to have sex with someone who didn't want to have sex with them just as much? And unless both people really want to, is it really...

If you say nothing, it's unlikely he'll know. The bodies of people with vaginas really don't change when they have any kind of sex, unless they become pregnant or contract an infection. Vaginal sex can wear a hymen or partial hymen away more, but so can and do a lot of other things, and at your age...

It's important to understand that rape is only sex for the person doing the raping. And really, it's not even that, since partnered sex is something we do WITH someone, not TO someone, or have done TO us. A person being raped does not have control over the situation, isn't consenting and IS...

While your risks for STI transmission may be lesser if both of you have not ever been sexually active in any way, it does not totally negate the risk. Not being "sexually involved" can mean lots of things for different people. Some people might only consider "sexually involved" to mean having...

What do you really know about HIV and AIDS? How sure are you that what you know is correct or complete, and how much do you think it matters that you know about HIV and AIDS at all?

Well, I feel you shouldn't fake it in the FIRST place, and would say it's time to stop faking NOW. I know: it can be really hard sometimes to tell a partner we care a lot about that we're dissatisfied, because we don't want to hurt their feelings. But faking pleasure or orgasm is one of the best...

Not an easy question, but I'll do my best. I'm going to assume we're not talking about infibulated women, but in the case you are, just write back and we'll tackle that, too. One thing to understand is that one unfortunate aspect of defining virginity by the state of the hymen is that it just isn't...

I have genital herpes. Those people you see in the Valtrex commercials, running down a beach with five beautiful women chasing after them? Totally me.

Trichomoniasis is one of the most common sexually transmitted diseases, mainly affecting 16-to-35-year old females.