sexual response

Honestly? The biggest fantasy driving the bus here is that the length of time your erection lasts has much to do with your partner’s pleasure (or yours, to some degree) at all. That isn’t to say that you won’t likely have sex partners – some, plenty, even all of them – who don’t enjoy sex that…

From a reproductive standpoint, the purpose of an erection is to allow for insertion of the penis into the vaginal canal and ejaculation. Once the erection has served that purpose, there is no reason for it to continue. Also, typically after ejaculation or orgasm, sexual arousal wans. As that…

What you’re describing here comes down to a word that many people interested in psychology would term “displacement.” The theory of displacement was first brought about by the well known Sigmund Freud to describe the idea that when a person is upset, they shift their impulses from an unacceptable…

How familiar are you with the changes to your vulva or the rest of your body when you get sexually aroused? I ask this, because I’m willing to bet that there have been times, for you, when you’re with a partner you’re attracted to, and who you want to be with, but find that your clitoris is not as…

Can you see your double-standard here? You don’t reach orgasm during sex, but say that you enjoy and want it all the same. Even knowing that – assuming it’s true, and not just something you’re saying because you think you’re supposed to – you’re presuming that because he isn’t reaching orgasm, he…

As we’ve said again and again and again, the majority of people with vaginas do NOT reach orgasm from vaginal intercourse alone – and never have – and many do not find vaginal intercourse to even be all that arousing or satisfying. There’s nothing to “fix” when it comes to that – our anatomy, on…

A person who has a strong ethical or religious conflict with having any kind of sex, or sex in certain scenarios – such as being unmarried, if they feel sex is really only right in the context of marriage – is very likely to have that inhibit their sexual response. As well, it’s very normal for…

When something big is brand new to us, and carries risks with it – negative or positive, and in the case of sex with someone, both – it’s entirely normal to be pretty darn nervous or anxious. And when people with penises are nervous or anxious, quite commonly they won’t be able to get or sustain…

Of all the antidepressants around, Zoloft is actually most often linked to sexual side effects, and inability to reach orgasm, ejaculate with orgasm, erectile dysfunction and impaired libido (sexual drive) are common effects of Zoloft (and other SSRIs). So, since that is a very likely possibility…

I can certainly do my best. Let’s start with the basics. Thing is, “premature ejaculation” is actually not the best term in the world, because it is seriously vague and incredibly arbitrary. I can tell you that I run too slow, for instance, and what you’re likely going to ask me is “Compared to who…