sexual response

Well, I’ll bet you’re annoyed! But it’s not just a guy thing. Often after anyone – male, female or otherwise – reaches orgasm, they’ll be a little spaced out for a bit, and might need a breather sometimes. Sometimes, even with our bit of dizzy-spacey-blissed-out, we’ll still be up to continuing…

Your boyfriend seems to be dismissing the fact that for the majority of women, intercourse all by itself, no matter how long or short it lasts, is not very satisfying, especially physically. But even if it were, and even if a majority of women wanted intercourse to last a long time, that wouldn’t be…

It is certainly possible that sometime during sex you are getting some little abrasions that are causing you to spot afterward. Since you are not bleeding heavily, the abrasions are probably not serious, but just enough to cause some irritation. If you are not having this issue during other…

Nothing in the world is wrong with you. We explain this a lot here, but I’ll say it again: the majority of women do NOT reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. You’re not the only one asking, either. Sadly, more women than not have just never been informed as to how their sexual anatomy…

You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay. Remember that orgasm is primarily an event that occurs in, and is about, the nervous system. Yes, most people have most of their orgasms due to stimulation that is about or includes genital stimulus. But not all people, and again, for most, it’s not JUST…

Withdrawal is NOT an effective birth control method: just ask my parents, and their parents, and…you get the picture. I also have a fantastic nephew who I adore, both of whose parents swear (and have no reason to lie, really) that they practiced withdrawal PERFECTLY. Apparently not. That’s the…

An erection happens when certain structures on your body stiffen due to either increased blood flow, or muscular flexing. But usually, people tend to talk about the penis when they are talking about erection. When a person with a penis is stimulated tactilely (by touch) or mentally (such as with…

It’s really tough to say. Ultimately, the only person who can know for sure if they’ve reached orgasm is the person who is having one. For sure, often people’s expectations of orgasm can be off-base, especially if they’re primarily based on fictional depictions of orgasm. While sometimes orgasm can…

Phew! This is a lot of information – and that’s helpful – but there is also a lot to address in here. I’m seeing an awful lot of unrealistic expectations, from you and from your girlfriend, so I’d like to speak to those. Unrealistic expectations about sex really can make the sex we’re having be a…

Hi Marie, your boyfriend doesn’t have anything to worry about. You might not even believe this but the man who invented corn flakes, Dr. Harvey Kellogg, as well as the guy who invented Graham crackers, Dr. Sylvester Graham, and most experts of their day, believed that any man who ejaculated “as…