relationships

I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling insecure in your sexual relationship. It’s understandable that you’d feel a bit uncertain about your girlfriend’s enjoyment of sex since it sounds like you aren’t getting much, if any, honest feedback from her and are worried her responses during sex aren’t genuine…

I’d like to start by addressing your use of the word “sex.” Sex can mean anything from masturbation (aka “solo sex”), to manual sex (“fingering”), to oral sex, to anal sex, and of course to what many people mean when they just say “sex” (and what I’m guessing you’re referring to in your question)…

soclara continues Because I lost all this weight without any form of exercise outside of basic walking when necessary or working, my body is legitimately disgusting. It’s flabby, loose, my breasts are like half empty sacks, my thighs are humongous blobs of fat and cellulite (not exaggerating, not…

What do you do in dating when one person is trans and one is cisgender?

There are a couple of things that I want to talk about here. Obviously, the fact that you’re not enjoying sex with your current partner is the big one, but I also want to address what sounds, from what you’ve written, like an assumption about what it means to be dominant or submissive, and a…

Izzybelle’s question continued: A few years ago, I met a guy and we became really close friends. After a year, we stopped being friends because I felt (my parents also felt this way) that he didn’t care about me; he never texted me (literally never) and he never wanted to hang out, but I was blind…

MojMycha’s question continued: We’ve been together nearly a year and I am his first partner, both romantically and sexually. He only recently discovered he can feel sexual pleasure (besides that brought by orgasm) and he has never felt it in orgasm. I’ve brought him to orgasm by blow jobs and hand…

How to tame those scary, growly feelings and use them for good.

Then don’t! Here’s a feast of support and help for those who want to say no, not now, or not-like-this to sex or sexual relationships.

Hooray for thinking about what you might want or feel ready for in intimate or dating relationships before you pursue them! So often people just kind of passively fall into relationships and only then try and figure what they want and need. It’s not impossible to do it that way, and there are some…