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  • Sarah Riley

Let's toss out the idea of being "tight" because you haven't done anything with anybody else. Sex of any sort (manual sex, intercourse, or whatever else) doesn't permanently change the dimensions of one's vagina. So thinking that people who haven't engaged in vaginal or manual sex are tighter than...

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  • Heather Corinna

You know, even if it DID or does have to do with feces and the scent of feces it'd not be anything to be ashamed of. Really, your friend is being a dope. If we know anything about human sexuality, we know that what's most normal is difference and variance, and that it's exceptionally difficult to be...

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  • Heather Corinna

Sounds like you're in a difficult spot, but it also sounds like you're in a really good headspace to work it out, so let's see what we can do. Some of why your partner is okay with intercourse may indeed be because it's enjoyable for her, though it sounds like so far it hasn't been very enjoyable...

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  • Heather Corinna

I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. However, please understand that that bad experience did not likely cause permanent changes to your vulva or vagina. While certainly, if you were tense or underlubricated, that could have caused a tear to the tissue of the vaginal corona, which may cause mild...

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  • Heather Corinna

It often takes a while for any new partner -- especially when both partners are also new to sex in general -- to get the hang of what works for a given partner with any given sexual activity. So, one thing to know is that it's normal for things to just take time. But time alone won't tend to that...

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  • Sarah Riley

Have you seen your health care provider about this problem yet? If not, then that's the very first place to go. You need to get checked out and make sure that everything physically is alright with you right now. You should also make sure that you tell your health care provider specifically that you...

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  • Heather Corinna

The most obvious culprits for persistent bleeding following intercourse would be: cervicitis ( an inflammation of your cervix) the sexually transmitted infections chlamydia or gonorrhea vaginal dryness or trauma/injury or uterine fibroids If you're having sex using only the pill, the STIs would be...

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  • Sarah Riley

Most things that you find around the house are not suitable for use as lubricant (if you have a vulva). They are simply not formulated for internal use and can easily lead to irritation and infection! So if you do not like KY, there are plenty of other brands of lube that you can buy at your grocery...

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  • Heather Corinna

No, there is not. The only thing you can do is to ask your partner -- giving you're willing to be forthright and share the same information about yourself -- and take her word for it. If you're asking this because of concerns about sexually transmitted infections, understand that knowing how many...

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  • Heather Corinna

Sounds to me like you have some internal conflict here...or not. What I'm really hearing you say here is that you're just not really feeling it when it comes to sex yet. Not alone, not with your partner. I'm hearing you say that you're more interested in non-sexual physical affection right now --...