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Most things that you find around the house are not suitable for use as lubricant (if you have a vulva). They are simply not formulated for internal use and can easily lead to irritation and infection! So if you do not like KY, there are plenty of other brands of lube that you can buy at your grocery…

No, there is not. The only thing you can do is to ask your partner – giving you’re willing to be forthright and share the same information about yourself – and take her word for it. If you’re asking this because of concerns about sexually transmitted infections, understand that knowing how many…

Sounds to me like you have some internal conflict here…or not. What I’m really hearing you say here is that you’re just not really feeling it when it comes to sex yet. Not alone, not with your partner. I’m hearing you say that you’re more interested in non-sexual physical affection right now –…

I absolutely promise you that you did not become pregnant from kissing and clothed heavy petting. I promise. So, breathe. You know your periods aren’t regular, so not having one this month, especially when you have PCOS, likely has nothing to do with pregnancy. But if you’re seriously freaking out…

Pregnancy is not likely to occur for most people who menstruate who have sex during their periods. But because ovulation schedules can vary – and be particularly erratic for younger people – it’s never smart to have unprotected sex at any time you do not WANT to become pregnant, even during your…

Hey Anon: I’m sorry about the loss of your Mom. Often Dads really can do just as good a job in terms of talking about these things, so if he’s open to it, you might want to consider talking to him. But obviously, what’s important is that you have someone to talk to you feel comfortable talking to…

You know, “slut” is both a really subjective and often a really derogatory term. A lot of people use it out of spite, because they’re afraid of sexuality (or, more accurately, women’s or queer sexuality), and because they’re afraid of people who enjoy it, and on some level, perhaps, secretly jealous…

What’s safer sex? Find out how you can best reduce your risks of STIs and protect your health and how to do it and be supported in it without feeling like the Sex Decency Brigade or bringing on the buzzkill.

Many people in long-term, committed relationships, be it marriage or steady partnership – no matter their age – have ideas about sex in partnerships they may not even be aware of. Often we base our ideas of relationships and sexuality on what we see in the media or in movies, on what our parents relationship is like, or on what we imagine, in a perfect world, sex and love to be. Talking about what those ideas are, communicating our feelings honestly, and creating clear limits and honoring them make everyone happier and healthier.

The author of this article is Malcolm Gin, who identifies as a 31-year old intergendered person. In this article, Malcolm explains a great deal about sex, gender, gender identity, and what you can do if you find out (or worry) that you might not be “normal” in terms of your own gender identity. Read on, and find out what it’s like to be a “boy” who isn’t actually a boy, and what life can be like for people with non-standard gender identity.