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Does your relationship need a basic checkup to be sure it’s healthy and well? Here’s a list for doing just that.

What’s it mean to be questioning, why would you or someone else identify that way, how do you deal in the process and how might you answer the question?

You probably hear the term “healthy relationship” a lot. But what does that mean, and how do you create – and keep building – one of those?

I don’t think it’s very realistic to expect most of us to feel the exact same way, or “equally,” about all men, all women or all people whose gender is outside of that binary. I’m not even sure, I have to say, what feeling “equally” about people, period, would be. People are so radically different…

What it sounds like, to me, is that whatever it is you’ve been doing sexually just isn’t something you feel okay with yet or good about right now. I get that it feels good at the time, but when I talk about sex feeling good, any kind of sexual activities at all, what I mean is sex feeling good…

We hear so many horror stories about first-time sex. Perhaps it might be good therapy to read about a first time that went well.

A lot of people are worried, anxious or nervous about sex, whether they are 15, 24 or 44. It’s not just you, really. Given how many people in the world have conflicting feelings about sex and sexuality, I’d disagree that the concerns you’re having are not normal at your age or any other. You say a…

If you are not looking to become pregnant, then chances are good you have just been very lucky so far. Generally, in one year of sex without any method of birth control, around 80 - 90% of young women will become pregnant. So, for now, it seems you’ve been that 10 - 20% of women who haven’t… so…

For some people, in some situations, sixteen is young to have sex. For some, it is too young. For others, it feels like an appropriate age, and others still, it’s felt okay to engage in sex at a younger age. Age-in-years, all by itself, doesn’t tend to be a good marker of when someone is or is not…

I think that when it feels like the only way you can get someone to take no or “I’m not ready yet” for an answer is to lie and say you were sexually assaulted, that you probably know all you need to know. Same goes for someone who you say you cannot sit down and talk to about saying you aren’t ready…