masturbation

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  • Mo Ranyart

First off, I'm glad to hear that your relationship in general, including your sex life, sounds like it's going well right now. That's certainly a great place to start from! There's no type of sex or orgasm that's "better" or more appropriate for a certain point in a relationship than another. So if...

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  • Robin Mandell

Generally, fear serves a very important and useful function. It helps us recognize things to validly be afraid of and allows us to defend or put ourselves on guard against or around those things; to do what we need to to keep ourselves safe and sound. Fear of pain is particularly adaptive. It often...

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  • Robin Mandell

No. It is not possible for a gynecologist to tell if someone has been sexually active, either with themselves or with a partner through an examination. The only exception might be if you were examined shortly after masturbating; the doctor might notice redness or irritation of the vulvar tissues...

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  • Heather Corinna

I don't think there's anything wrong with you. But, boy howdy, does it sound like plenty was wrong with this situation. You did not WANT to engage in sex with this person. You were also clear that you didn't feel ready to have sex with this person once it was obvious to you that you felt that way...

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  • Jenna Gaarde

Your question isn't silly. Privacy around any kind of sex is a big concern for many people, whether they live with parents, housemates or partners. Many people feel that masturbation is a very private thing, and don't necessarily want to shout it out to their parents that they are going to go...

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  • Robin Mandell

First of all, you're completely okay and nothing you've described here means there's anything wrong with you. Nearly all people masturbate or have masturbated in their lives, and most masturbate with the kind of frequency you're describing. As well, it's very normal for little children to masturbate...

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  • Robin Mandell

First and foremost, no matter what we call it, if masturbation (or any other activity, for that matter) feels pleasurable, that’s the most important thing. Regardless of the names we give things to put them in categories, our bodies are so unique in the way they work that these tidy little...

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  • Jenna Gaarde

First things first: issues or difficulties with orgasm are extremely common, so you are definitely not "weird". In fact many teens, young adults, and older folks alike have never experienced orgasm, so that's great that you have found a position that brings you pleasure. People have orgasms in...

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  • Heather Corinna

When it comes to sex with and for only yourself -- masturbation -- it should be just like sex with a partner when it comes to if you do it or not. If it's something you want to do and feel comfortable doing, then you can choose to do it. If it's not something you want or don't feel comfortable with...

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  • Heather Corinna

Well, I don't think vaginas or vulvas (or penises or anuses or mouths or ears or eyes or fingers or kidneys: any body parts) are gross. I think they're really freaking cool and totally fascinating, whether I'm talking or thinking about my own, or all vulvas or vaginas. But you're making quite clear...