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I will start by saying that, as confusing as this situation may seem right now, you have a really good head on your shoulders: You know who you are and what you’re interested in, and seem OK with it. That right there is fantastic, because it’s something that many people of all ages continue to…

You two always talk about joke around in class, brightening each others’ school day. You laugh at each others’ jokes, which is always special and not to be underrated! Although there may be some differences in your physical appearances, you have very many deeper things in common- and that’s what’s…

I’d like to focus this on the three primary issues you brought up here: your need for basic physical affection, your problem with upholding your own boundaries, and your ideas about how without intercourse, the sex you or anyone else are having cannot possibly satisfy either of you. On all of those…

Our sexual orientation is about who we do feel attracted to, sexually and emotionally. It’s not about who we’re not frustrated with, who we are not attracted to, who might make do or what someone else’s orientation is. The organization Avert does a really nice job of laying out what sexual…

It sounds to me like your best bet would just be getting away from this dope. You’re noticing changes in his behavior: he doesn’t seem to be as sweet and nice anymore. Despite making clear that you’re just not comfortable having any kind of sex with him, he’s pushing it and also seems to be trying…

The only person who needs to be convinced they are gay, bisexual, lesbian, heterosexual or any other kind of orientation is that person. We don’t need to convince others of what our orientation is or prove our orientation to anyone. That girl you know doesn’t need to convince you she’s gay, nor…

You know, whether or not a boyfriend wants something from you does not obligate you to give it to him (and vice-versa). I’d totally be down for ditching work for an hour and having sex with my partner right this second. But he’s upstairs in his office doing work for himself right now which he needs…

A partner addressing your worries or nervousness about any kind of sex by telling you you need to “grow up,” needs to grow up WAY more than you do. In a word, if that’s how he responds to this, I’m less worried about him dumping you, and more concerned about you sticking around with the likes of him…

When I was very little, I developed really severe atopic eczema. My parents and doctors had the worst time getting it under control, but eventually they managed to find the right set of lifestyle changes and medications to take care of the problem. I didn’t really have a lot of issues (as long as I…

Not having sex shouldn’t cause anyone to have a nervous breakdown. And if you feel like your mental health hinges on being sexually active with a partner, that’s not a good thing – or healthy for you or a relationship – and something you’d want to address with a mental health professional. Mind…