dating

What do you do in dating when one person is trans and one is cisgender?

You say that you’re not sure whether or not to end the relationship, but it sounds to me like part of you knows that many aspects of your relationship aren’t healthy and that ending it is what needs to happen. It’s completely normal to have conflicting feelings about that, but it’s also important to…

Breakups are rarely any fun, for either party involved. It can be hard to figure out a way to end a romantic relationship without causing too much pain or awkwardness, especially when you still really care about the person you’re breaking up with. Since it sounds like you’re pretty sure that this…

Hi there, I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling so lonely. First I want to tackle the fact that your friends in relationships seem to be drifting away from you and your group of friends. It’s unfortunate, but it is common for many people to pull away from their friends when they enter a relationship…

There are so many things that make me glad in your question. Glad that L has at least one person that he feels safe sharing that part of himself with. Glad you reacted positively and confirmed his trust in you. But oh how I am not glad that he’s still in a situation where he doesn’t feel comfortable…

Identity can be such an obnoxious creature sometimes. Just when you think you’ve got it all sorted out, some new evidence pops up and you have to rethink things. And I don’t need to tell you how frustrating that shift can be, because you’re in the middle of it. It can be doubly trying if you’ve…

The tradition of “men pursue, women wait” is still culturally prevalent, and a lot of families (yours included) teach their children that men should be the ones doing the asking when it comes to romance. This notion is problematic for a number of reasons. It reinforces not-so-great ideas about how…

What do you do when you don’t like your kid’s new partner?

Going away to school can present some new sexual challenges. Here’s a get-you-started guide to grow on.

How to tame those scary, growly feelings and use them for good.