dating

When it comes to sex and dating beyond the binary, not only are we given no blueprint, no representation, and no guide whatsoever, but we’re also working against the heteronormative messages we’ve all been indoctrinated with by media and culture from birth. Here are five ways I’ve learned to safely and creatively navigate dating spaces as a nonbinary person.

We do frequently get questions about how to ask someone out but, as with so many things since the pandemic started, we’re having to adapt our standard advice to reflect our current circumstances. So, thank you for asking this question! Let’s start with the obstacles of not having a way to contact…

When you identify as queer but enter into relationships with heterosexual people, or those with of a different gender to your own, it can feel odd to consolidate these two parts of your identity. You’re not straight, but society can perceive you that way – where do you fit in, exactly?

There are a lot of binary ideas and definitions happening in your questions. By that, I mean you’re viewing things as only having two possible options, when really there are more than that. Let’s tackle the question with the simplest answer first. If you like a trans guy, then you like guys, because…

Last summer, when I was half a year into being newly single and telling myself and my friends that I was “just doing me” or “dating myself,” I realized: I wasn’t actually dating myself if I wasn’t putting in the work. Since then, I’ve been working on developing tangible strategies for dating myself. I am sharing these strategies with you, hoping that they may help illuminate the beautiful, confusing, nearsighted path back towards yourself.

I’ll be honest, Tre: dating apps can be a great option for some people, but you’re far from the first person to come to Scarleteen brimming with frustration over your experiences on them. While they can put us in the orbit of cool people who’d we’d otherwise never meet, they can also pressure us to…

The lack of good dating options can help to compound problems people on the Autism spectrum already have with dating. Lisa Laman has some tips!

First off, in case it helps to hear this: it’s all right to want to break up with your boyfriend. You’re allowed to end a relationship for any reason, and “I only want to date women, and my partner is now very clearly not a woman” is a perfectly valid one. Sometimes, a person’s gender transition…

Despite the initial shame, guilt, name-calling, jokes, and fear related to disclosure, my STI presented me with a chance to love myself more deeply. It gave me a chance to sit with myself, who I thought myself to be, who I thought I was going to become, and who I really was.

Just because you face your own set of specific challenges doesn’t mean you get a free pass to discount the humanity of someone else.