consent

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  • CJ Turett

Consent is an active process and agreement, and it cannot be coerced. The absence of no does not mean yes. No matter how well you think that you know your partner, you should never assume that you know her thoughts in that instant about sex and what she may want or not want to do. She should also...

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  • Heather Corinna

Kasey: before I say anything else, let me just say that I'm very sorry this all went down this way for you. You holding back tears while continuing to give someone oral sex (which disturbs me), your husband having intercourse with someone else and you feeling unable to say anything, your feelings of...

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  • Heather Corinna

If he's kissing guys but not you, that might be a sound reason to think about his sexual orientation. But that doesn't appear to be the case. Our sexual orientation isn't based on who we do not feel emotional or sexual attraction to, but to who we do have those feelings for. Of course, if we're not...

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  • Heather Corinna

You can -- and should, in my book -- talk about this with him in advance if you have this concern. Neither men nor women lack the ability to be sure, when having any kind of sex with a partner, that we are paying just as much attention to them and what they want as we are to ourselves and what we...

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  • Heather Corinna

Save talking to this guy -- or discovering you became pregnant or contracted a sexually transmitted infection -- there's no way for you to find out what went on at this point. Had you gone into the police or the hospital right away, they could have looked for traces of semen or abrasions to your...

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  • Heather Corinna

The best person to ask that question of is.... (drumroll please) ... your girlfriend! She's the one who knows the answer to this question. When you're doing something sexual with someone, and they're not reacting in any way or don't seem to be fully along for the ride, the first thing to do is to...

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  • Heather Corinna

Worried: there's no one kind of person, or kind of role, that gives someone a free pass to have sex on us or to us when it isn't what we want. If a husband forces or coerces his wife into sex when sex is not what she wants, it's not consensual, and it is then a sexual abuse or an assault: a rape. If...

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  • Heather Corinna

All I can do is to strongly encourage you not to deceive anyone into becoming a parent. Would you want someone to trick you into pregnancy or parenting? Given, it's you who would become pregnant and give birth, not a guy, but manipulating someone into the position of creating a pregnancy when they...

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  • Sarah Riley

Virginity, in and of itself, is a societal concept not a medical one. Certainly there used to be the thought that as long as a woman had a hymen, she was a virgin (and unfortunately some people still subscribe to this belief). However, a hymen is just thin, flexible folds of mucous tissue that...

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  • Heather Corinna

Looking at what you've posted, and given he knows that not only does anal sex not feel good for you, it causes you pain, I'd be inclined to agree that there's probably something very unhealthy going on here interpersonally. It doesn't make a lot of sense to give someone tips on how to do something...