communication

It sounds like you’ve put a lot of thought into what you want from a romantic and sexual relationship, and that’s great! It’s always good to spend some time figuring out what you want and need before you start a relationship. By knowing yourself and your boundaries, you’ve got a solid foundation for…

What would the world look like if we made a habit of thinking about personal boundaries in our everyday lives?

I think what you both should do — or more to the point, the only sound thing I think you can do — is accept each of your feelings and wants instead of trying to change them. I also think it’s important you let your girlfriend know that she should work to accept her feelings as well. I think it would…

A lot of people are talking about “bad sex” when they mean coercive sex. So let’s have a conversation about when sex just isn’t satisfying.

The good news is that there’s no secret to bringing up unconventional sex acts with a partner; the same basic communication skills that are needed to talk about any other kinds of sex are what’s needed here. The bad news is…well, that there’s no secret to it! The simple answer to your question is…

First off, it’s great that you’ve found a sexual orientation that you identify strongly with! Regardless of if and when you talk about this with anyone else, it’s an exciting and positive thing to understand and accept about yourself, so: congratulations! When contemplating coming out, remember that…

This is a great question, and it’s great that you’re asking it. Stopping these comments altogether might not be possible, but there are things you can say in response and ways you can help change the tone of the conversation. First off, I want to talk a little about why your friends may be…

A starter guide to managing and resolving interpersonal conflict.

Hayley, I’m so sorry you’re experiencing the crappy feelings of ‘not being enough’, or even of someone potentially being ‘bored’ of you. It can be extremely painful to have those thoughts and I think it would be best for you to do what you can to start entertaining them as little as possible. It’s…

The start of a relationship can feel very fluid — you may date several people while you get to know them, and might pick up, stop, shift and start relationships at various points. Sometimes you can find yourself in a situation where you aren’t entirely sure if you’re “officially” dating someone at all, but it sure feels like you might be. As a relationship starts to evolve into something more structured or long-term, you may want to have a deeper conversation about the form you want your relationship to take. For you, that may mean bringing up polyamory — or having your partner bring it up, in which case, this guide is for you too!