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Virginity, in and of itself, is a societal concept not a medical one. Certainly there used to be the thought that as long as a woman had a hymen, she was a virgin (and unfortunately some people still subscribe to this belief). However, a hymen is just thin, flexible folds of mucous tissue that…

Readiness for sex isn’t something that only happens once, or happens once at a certain age. It can be normal at any age, in any situation, for any person not to feel ready for any kind of sex with a partner. When we’re first ready is going to vary a lot from person to person, based on our life…

When someone asks me a sex readiness question, one of the big things I look for is that the onset of sex in a relationship is about more than one person mostly or solely initiating. In other words, I hear you telling me that he says you can stop if you want to, and that tells me he’s probably the…

Before the two of you do anything sexual, I’d say it’s REALLY important that you work out the issue of him seeing sex as a way for you to prove your love. It’s not. Take a look at the bare basics from our Sex Readiness Checklist: If either of you wants to do it because you feel you must or should…

If weeks after this risk, you had a normal period, then there really is no reason to be concerned about pregnancy. But if you’re still worried, even knowing that, the best thing to do so that you can relax is just to go to the drugstore, get a home pregnancy test and take it so that you can see that…

(Part of Be a Blabbermouth! The Whys, Whats and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner) The Not-Just-Yet-Hookup: You’ve hung out with someone once or twice with friends, and wound up spending time alone both times. Now you’re hanging out alone in a private space for the first time, some enjoyable…

Say you don’t really dig giving oral sex. That really is all there is to it. Very few people like to do EVERYTHING there is to do sexually. I bet your boyfriend doesn’t like to do everything any given partner of his might or will want to do, either. Maybe it’s that he doesn’t really like someone…

Virginity isn’t something physical we can “break.” And virginity isn’t your hymen: it’s an idea, or a set of values and concepts which varies from person to person, not a body part. In other words, you define what virginity is for yourself, or, if this is based in something religious, or a set of…

It sounds to me like it’s time for you to think about what you really want right now in this relationship and then have a good ole’ fashioned sit-down talk with your partner here, honey! First off, what exactly is it that you want in this relationship? Forget for a moment what he may or may not be…

If he’s only asking for sex, I’m sorry to tell you that it’s pretty safe to assume he isn’t interested in asking you out. He’s expressed his interest: it’s sex. And if you’ve interest in having a boyfriend, and his only interest is in having someone to have sex with, that’s a recipe for disaster…