bodies

Hey Anonymous, On a personal note, when I was growing up I was really, really freaked out about the way I was shaped. Enough so that I was almost panicky the first time anyone else saw it! It turned out I was way more worried than I needed to be. Turns out that normal erections bend in all different…

Not an easy question, but I’ll do my best. I’m going to assume we’re not talking about infibulated women, but in the case you are, just write back and we’ll tackle that, too. One thing to understand is that one unfortunate aspect of defining virginity by the state of the hymen is that it just isn’t…

I’m afraid you’re not going to like my answer very much. Really? You don’t want to be having intercourse – or even outercourse, if it isn’t comfortable and protected – when you’re not fully over a yeast infection (as your treatment will mention in the instructions). For starters, yeast infections…

None of this has anything to do with how much you masturbate. Nor is this likely about something that’s wrong with your penis. I am, however, seeing a few issues here that are either misinformed or not as they should be which are the likely culprits. For starters, understand that the vagina really…

Hey, Scott. Having one testicle has absolutely no physiological impact on sexual performance. Arousal, erection and orgasm are not reliant on the testicles in any way. As well, having your testicle removed, and but one remaining would not have impacted your sexual or general development, and your…

Absolutely! Understand that orgasm isn’t really a genital event: rather, it’s a whole body event, one that takes place primarily in your nervous system and cardiovascular system, but which we feel effects of in our genitals as well, and which genital sex often causes. So, your heart rate goes up…

Overall, body size doesn’t influence penis size. In other words, plenty of tall men have average-sized penises, like you, and plenty of short men have larger-than-average sized penises. Same goes for weight: penis size isn’t influenced by body mass, either. At the age of 20, it’s pretty likely that…

You know, this happens a lot. That, after a person becomes sexually active, or does a given new sexual thing, they’ll notice what appear to be changes with their body. But when it all gets sorted out, it pretty much always turns out that there wasn’t anything different. In other words, that your…

That’s pretty normal as partners get more comfortable having sex together, so you should let him know that doesn’t mean anything is wrong. But if he’s not satisfied with that, the trick generally is just to mix it up: to mix in way more activities than intercourse, and to focus on his whole body…

I’m going to suggest you look at reciprocity in sex – the idea that one person gives something, so the other should get something of equal value back – in a different way than you might be used to. (Excerpted and adapted from S.E.X., the Scarleteen book.)