arousal

A couple of years ago, I learned to knit and I got really really interested in knitting. Anytime I was sitting still (and sometimes when I was moving) I was knitting. But then, after a while, I sorta stopped getting that urge to knit everytime I sat still. It wasn’t that I didn’t enjoy knitting. It…

I’m afraid that there isn’t a whole lot I can do for you, Guyman. You’re right: it is totally normal right now for you to feel strong sexual desires, and to get pretty excited when you’re around people that you’re attracted to. It’s also certainly more profound because of your age. It does settle…

The technical term for “blue balls” is vasocongestion. It really isn’t about balls at all, and it happens to people of all genders. Here’s the deal: when any of us gets very sexually aroused, one thing that happens is that our whole pelvic area tends to fill with blood. That’s how penises get…

Know what? While alcohol can reduce a person’s inhibitions, another thing it often does reduce how aroused – how turned on – a person can get. It also tends to inhibit orgasm, as well as vaginal lubrication. And that’s just the minor stuff. Date rape is far more common when alcohol is involved…

Of all the antidepressants around, Zoloft is actually most often linked to sexual side effects, and inability to reach orgasm, ejaculate with orgasm, erectile dysfunction and impaired libido (sexual drive) are common effects of Zoloft (and other SSRIs). So, since that is a very likely possibility…

Nothing in the world is wrong with you. We explain this a lot here, but I’ll say it again: the majority of women do NOT reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse alone. You’re not the only one asking, either. Sadly, more women than not have just never been informed as to how their sexual anatomy…

Not only can you not stop your vagina and vulva from lubricating, that is what HAPPENS to people with vaginas when we become sexually aroused. It’s supposed to, ideally, because if we’re not lubricated, vulval and vaginal sex – as well as some kinds of clitoral stimulation – doesn’t feel very good…

I’m glad you’ve found things on the website that have been useful for you! Being educated about your body and about safer sex practices goes a long way toward making sex both safer and more enjoyable when we are ready for it and do want to be engaged in it. Keep in mind here that there is no one…

Let’s toss out the idea of being “tight” because you haven’t done anything with anybody else. Sex of any sort (manual sex, intercourse, or whatever else) doesn’t permanently change the dimensions of one’s vagina. So thinking that people who haven’t engaged in vaginal or manual sex are tighter than…

This kind of thing is not an issue with your genitals changing in any way. It has more to do with your mind. One big thing that has long been the conundrum of married and long-term couples everywhere when it comes to sex is the fact that our libidos really do tend to thrive on changing things up…