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RespectIsSexy’s question continued We share a room, and often if I walk in unannounced I’ll find her seemingly lying on the bed doing absolutely nothing, looking irritatedly at me - the exact position I can be found in if interrupted masturbating. In light of this, I really think it’s necessary that…

It was my personal mission to break the silence, not just for myself but for others who were not yet ready to speak. I wanted to share my story with whoever was willing to listen in hopes of making a difference in someone’s life. Look out world; I am on a mission to end sexual violence!

(CMH’s question continued) He likes petite girls, as do most guys. I am tall (for a woman) and big. I weigh over 200 pounds, though I carry it well. I do not have a pretty face, though I would not call it ugly. It is also not particularly interesting. He told me that even though I have a good…

Kasey: before I say anything else, let me just say that I’m very sorry this all went down this way for you. You holding back tears while continuing to give someone oral sex (which disturbs me), your husband having intercourse with someone else and you feeling unable to say anything, your feelings of…

There’s no reason why I, or anyone else, should try to talk you into doing a sexual activity you don’t have any interest in doing. Coercing someone into doing something sexual they don’t want to is an abuse, and in many cases, also falls under definitions of rape, and for good reason. What motivates…

Frankly, if your first thought is to try and change your body – rather than to change the dynamic of this relationship or get out of it – something is horribly amiss. Your husband is clearly ignorant when it comes to bodies. A penis – be it his or anyone else’s – doesn’t have the capacity to…

(Your question, continued) We continued to talk as “friends”, and I discussed the situation with his mom since he had told his parents what was going on. She explained that we needed to stop spending so much time alone and putting ourselves in such tempting situations, so my boyfriend and I talked…

If you have NOT gladly and freely consented to and participated in sexual activity – if you have not in some way said a big yes and wanted to keep saying a big yes – and someone else had sex with you anyway, that is rape. No matter what ANYONE tells you, it is not your fault. There certainly is fault, but it lies with the rapist, not the victim.

Some people experience great pain or discomfort with vaginal sex or other kinds of vaginal entry that’s not about hymens, lack of arousal or lubrication, or rough partners, but about a health condition known as vaginismus.

Never believe: “I love you, it will never happen again.” It will happen again. The tears don’t matter, the bruises don’t matter, the broken bones and ER visits and warnings from friends and relatives don’t matter. Those scars that we bury deep inside us, the mental and emotional scars that we try to pretend don’t exist – they don’t matter. It will happen, again and again and again, unless someone puts a stop to it.