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My wife smells funny: is she cheating?

Mike
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First of all, I would like to say thank you for teaching a lot of us just a little more on the female anatomy, it's a Great Website.

I do have a question to ask. My wife and I have been married for almost 3 years and there's been times that I've had to leave for the weekend due to my job. Now upon my arrival, of course I would make love to my wife. But when going down there to give her oral sex, I would get this smell like dried semen. You know? When you have sex and then, a few hours or a day later when you do go down there again you get that unique smell?. Now, I do love my wife and trust her, but my question is do women have vaginal discharges that would make her smell like semen?.

You know, genitals⁠ smell like genitals smell like genitals. A bit musty, sometimes a bit acidic or salty. And with women, because of the phases of our fertility⁠ cycles, and the changes in our cervical mucus and vaginal discharges during every cycle, that smell isn’t always going to be identical.

You might also want to bear in mind that it often takes the vagina⁠ a few days to clean⁠ itself out⁠ with whatever wound up inside it. So, if you really feel like you are smelling semen⁠, you may well be smelling your own semen from any sex⁠ before you left for the weekend.

But really, there’s not a scent that is highly unique to semen that isn’t similar to vaginal discharges.

You say you trust your partner⁠, but to be honest, I’m not hearing it here. When we trust someone, if we worry or suspect that they aren’t being monogamous⁠, we ASK them. We don’t try and analyze their genital scents, or check up on their whereabouts, or look for hidden clues in the things they say or do. We simply ask them, and then we accept their answer. If we feel like their answer isn’t good enough, then we’ve got to recognize that we DO have a trust issue that we need to work out or reconcile.

So, if you’re having concerns that your wife isn’t being faithful, she’s the person to ask about it, not me or anyone else.

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