Sex & Disability

Sex with disability – whether it’s you or a partner who’s disabled or neurodiverse – doesn’t usually have to mean sex that’s harder or more challenging, it usually just means we have to bring out or grow our listening, self-advocacy, and adaptation skills, things that always make sex better, disabled or not.

Articles and Advice in this area:

Article
  • s.e. smith

You can do it (with disabilities)!

Article
  • s.e. smith

Approaching consent through a disability lens opens up new opportunities in all kinds of relationships.

Article
  • s.e. smith

If you want to explore various aspects of kink — or whatever you want to call it — there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, and it can be fun and one way to build rich, fulfilling relationships.

Article
  • s.e. smith

Nondisabled people sometimes assume masturbation is a snap, but for some of us, it can be more challenging. That doesn’t mean it’s impossible.

Article
  • s.e. smith

Being disabled doesn’t mean you can’t have a rewarding and awesome sex life.

Advice
  • Robin Mandell

You’re welcome! What you’re asking about here is something a lot of people experience and wonder about whether they have a disability or not. Even if these kinds of uncertainties about our sexualities weren’t pretty common, even if what you’re talking about was unique to you and a few other people…

Advice
  • Heather Corinna

I asked my hands-down favorite writer about sex and disability, Cory Silverberg, to answer this one for you. Here’s what Cory had to say: It already sounds like you have a good sense of what’s happening with your body since the spinal cord injury and one of the great things about having incredible…

Article
  • Heather Corinna

Being inclusive of disabled people in sex education and sexuality as a whole benefits those of us who are disabled, but it also can benefit everybody.

Advice
  • Stephanie

You know people really are all very different, and usually when we try to compare one partner with those of our past we miss the mark by a long shot because of those differences. So lets break your question down into a few different parts and take things one at a time. Let’s take the big question…

Advice
  • Heather Corinna

Really, truly, the longer we’re in relationships, the more we’re going to go through times when for one partner or the other – sometimes both – libidos are low or sex just isn’t a high priority. That’s okay. To expect our sex lives as time goes on to resemble how they were when we were brand new…