Pleasure & Sexual Response

Before I say anything else, I want to make sure you know how typical it is to not reach orgasm from vaginal intercourse for receptive partners. I don’t want to reinvent the wheel here since we’ve addressed this a lot, so I’ll just give you basics on that, followed by some links if you want more…

yougivemefever’s question continued: My boyfriend was hesitant to try to please me in the first place because he’s inexperienced and gets frustrated. He gets upset he can’t reciprocate. I don’t expect him to just know what I like. I should be comfortable enough with my body to be able to show him…

There is a lot to unpack here, but I first want to make sure we’re on the same page with some basics, particularly since my sense is you don’t have an answer to this because you’re not asking yourself the right questions. You’re saying you can’t have an orgasm from sex, but want to. But you’re also…

I probably can’t help you keep erections or ejaculation from happening when you don’t want them to, since that’s just something largely, and often entirely, outside someone’s control. Hopefully what I can do is help you to worry about it less and accept the way your body is right now more. We hear…

You should experiment and communicate with your partner and should do the things together and alone that feel uniquely good for both of you – not just one of you – at any given time. In all truth, the answer to situations like this really are that simple, and there’s not a whole lot more to it…

Your boyfriend sounds awesome. And how quickly he ejaculates right now really doesn’t have to present any problems if neither of you treat it like a problem. Just so you know, a lot of sex educators and therapists have big problems with the term and concept of “premature ejaculation” (PE) as it’s…

Sex addiction is a popular topic on talk-shows and in mainstream media (where the goal isn’t accuracy, but ratings), but it isn’t something many sexologists consider credible. I’m not on board with the idea myself. Our collective ugh about it has a lot to do with the way addiction is clinically…

It sounds like you’ve found an effective and pleasurable way for you to enjoy masturbation! There is huge variety in what people find pleasurable or comfortable. Lots of folks report that direct clitoral stimulation is too much or otherwise uncomfortable, and then there are plenty of others who…

We hear so many horror stories about first-time sex. Perhaps it might be good therapy to read about a first time that went well.

Let’s shift this question a little bit, because ultimately, what you’re asking isn’t just about guys. You’re asking if there is one way where orgasm or ejaculation feels better or best for any given group of people. The easy answer, and the truest answer, to that is no: just like there isn’t any one…