Partnered Sex

It’s not news to anyone who does any kind of sexuality education that people have a mighty hard time agreeing on what “sex” means. It’s very common for someone to figure that what sex means for them, the way they have experienced or classified sex, is what it is and means, or should be and should…

Here are some other questions we’ve had like this one recently: I’m a newly married man. I was suspecting my wife was a virgin but the result came opposite then what I was suspecting. When we had sex for the first time there was no bleeding and I did not feel the vagina is so tight. It means is my…

You and your partner have talked about your sexual and relationship history, and it sounds like you’ve also both tried to be honest in voicing your wants and needs when it comes to sex. That means that you two understand how important communication and honesty are when it comes to having a healthy…

It’s obviously important if you’re here for information that you know what we mean when we say “sex,” so we thought we’d make it clear.

There aren’t any “shoulds” here. Not all people with vaginas bleed with first-time intercourse or other kinds of vaginal entry: in fact, most don’t. Why some people do – and for how long they do – and some don’t also varies. As to how many people with vaginas do and don’t bleed after first…

A lot of what I’m reading in your post suggests to me that you two are just not in a good place for sex together right now. Someone telling you they don’t want to be intimate, that they don’t like it when you do sexual activities for them, that they don’t like to do them for you is usually telling…

The first thing I want to mention here is that I’m not sure there is such a thing as “a normal teenager”! Seriously, each individual is different, with different needs and desires, and so there is no one way to be in the world. The best we can do is make decisions that are well-informed and that…

What it sounds like, to me, is that whatever it is you’ve been doing sexually just isn’t something you feel okay with yet or good about right now. I get that it feels good at the time, but when I talk about sex feeling good, any kind of sexual activities at all, what I mean is sex feeling good…

Short answer: Absolutely, yes. There could be—and likely are—plenty of other reasons why your boyfriend does not want to do sexual things with you. Longer answer: Our decision about whether to have sex, or whether to engage in any type of sexual behavior is rarely the result of a single factor. It’s…

In American society we often grow up with baseball as THE metaphor to describe sex. Let’s deconstruct the baseball model, uncover its many flaws, and take a look at an alternative which is a whole lot better, even if it might make you a little hungry.