sexuality

Anon, it’s never wrong to not want to do any given sexual activity. Everyone has their own wants, needs and preferences, and you get to have yours just like anyone else. While it can take a little adjusting for sexual partners to find middle ground in terms of what both want and prefer, a partner…

There’s no “cherry” that needs popping in your vagina. Seriously. And virginity is a cultural idea or concept: it’s not a physical state of anything. In other words, the bodies of “virgins” and the bodies of “non-virgins” are often impossible to tell the difference between. Sometimes that term…

You know, it’s not often going to feel good to anyone to have someone just stick a finger into the vagina. There really aren’t “tight girls” and girls who aren’t tight. The tightness of your vaginal opening and vagina is mostly to do with how sexually aroused and relaxed you are, and if what someone…

Well, I feel you shouldn’t fake it in the FIRST place, and would say it’s time to stop faking NOW. I know: it can be really hard sometimes to tell a partner we care a lot about that we’re dissatisfied, because we don’t want to hurt their feelings. But faking pleasure or orgasm is one of the best…

I’m afraid you’re not going to like my answer very much. Really? You don’t want to be having intercourse – or even outercourse, if it isn’t comfortable and protected – when you’re not fully over a yeast infection (as your treatment will mention in the instructions). For starters, yeast infections…

You know, this happens a lot. That, after a person becomes sexually active, or does a given new sexual thing, they’ll notice what appear to be changes with their body. But when it all gets sorted out, it pretty much always turns out that there wasn’t anything different. In other words, that your…

First things first: when something hurts, that really is your body’s way of telling you that IT wants whatever it is to STOP. So, next time? If it hurts? Press pause. Manual sex really shouldn’t hurt – nor should it just be something one gets used to: sex should feel GOOD – and if it did hurt a…

Scarleteen is about the realities of teen sexuality: One of the main reasons young adults come back to Scarleteen again and again is that they report it to be one of the few places they know they can come with real questions, and not be faced with judgment for having an age-appropriate sexual life…

The same way anyone else does. Which is to say, any vast number of different ways. Sex isn’t just vaginal intercourse. Sex is any number of combinations of things people of all stripes do together to seek mutual sexual pleasure, and what those things or that combination are varies for everyone, even…

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