Sexual Identity
Impurity Culture: Surviving Virginity
Maybe you grew up in purity culture. Even if you didn’t, you’ve probably encountered and have to live with its ideas about virginity. I want to unpack some of those things, and consider what’s true and what isn’t.
This Place
I’ve changed dramatically because of this place that never insisted I change. This place where it didn’t matter how—or even if—I was sexual gave me sexuality as something I could live. Sex became something I could know about, talk about, do, enjoy and choose. My body became livable. Imagine that.
Four Crucial Queer Survival Tips for 2019
As we approach this new annum and everything that lies in store, instead of thinking about the ephemera one could manifest into being, I want to ask how we create the space to make our queer love and joy stand out and shine.
Sexuality in Color: Where “Latinx” came from (and where it might go)
Is "Latinx" just some weird made-up thing from the internet? How do marginalized communities reshape language to define themselves?
Disability and Dating: I'm Sexy, Seated, and Single Forever
It took a long time for me to come to terms with my singledom, but now that I'm here, I couldn't be happier.
Just the Basics, Ace: An Asexuality Primer
Think you might be asexual, or just curious about the ace community? Alaina Leary has the details.
Let's Talk About Girldick
If you or your partner is packing girldick, navigating your sexuality takes time, communication, and self-love.
Sick, Sexy, and Disabled
When your disabled body decides to literally crap out on you, how do you bring sexy back?
What's This Bisexual/Pansexual Thing All About, Anyway?
The coming out of celebrities like Janelle Monae pave the path for a better understanding of sexual identifiers.
The Search for Gender-Affirming Hygiene Products
Soap truly has no gender, but the personal care aisle can still be a scary place. Let us help you out!
The Answers (for Now)
If you're unsure of your sexual orientation, that uncertainty can feel overwhelming. You're not alone in this feeling, though! We've compiled the experiences of several people who've gone through that questioning process in the hope that their experiences might be relatable or comforting.
A Sex Positive and Transformative Justice Approach to #MeToo
Ready to take #MeToo to the next level?
The Art of Getting Bi
Being bisexual entails a very specific struggle that isn’t talked about enough: being believed.
Gender Confusion: Being Unsure Doesn't Have to Be a Bummer
Gender identity can be complicated, and often people who are questioning aren't comfortable in that space - but it's a totally valid place to be.
Undoing Sexual Shame
Feeling ashamed about sex or sexuality? Here are some steps to help you get started on turning that around so you can learn to love, not revile, your sexual self.
Jealousy: Making Friends With a Green-Eyed Monster
How to tame those scary, growly feelings and use them for good.
Unlearning Unlovability
I hid my fears and insecurities by desexualizing myself. Now I'm on the path of uncovering ways to unlearn ugliness as an identity.
Don't Want to Have Sex?
Then don't! Here's a feast of support and help for those who want to say no, not now, or not-like-this to sex or sexual relationships.
Casual...Cool? Making Choices About Casual Sex
What is it? Why would -- or wouldn't -- you want it? What makes it more likely to be a blast or a bummer?
Intimacy: The Whys, Hows, How-Nots, and So-Nots
Healthy intimacy is about intentionally sharing private or vulnerable parts of our hearts, minds, bodies or lives with each other. Why would we do that, how can we do that, and what is and isn't healthy with intimacy?
First, But Not Last: On Finding, Navigating, and Losing First Loves
In the throes of first love? Did your first love just break up with you, or are you terrified they will? This is your article. Whatever your circumstances with your first love, let's process some of this stuff together.
The Sex Goddess Blues: Building Sexual Confidence, Busting Perfectionism
Many women and girls feel insecure about sex, especially when it's new. How can we build some sexual confidence?
Wild and Untamed Things: Why a Cult Classic Still Resonates After All These Years
Scarleteen volunteer Sam reflects on the significance of The Rocky Horror Picture Show and how it relates to sexuality, identity, and her middle school experience.
Five Things I Learned Dating a Girl
Dating this wonderful person pushed me to think about some things in new and challenging ways. Here are some of my favorite lessons that I learned when I dated a woman.
Figuring Out How to be a Lesbian Safer Sexpert
When I started having sex with girls, there was no one cheering, especially not encouraging me to have safer sex. But over the last few years, I’ve finally begun to feel confident with safer sex, and it’s improved my sex life a million percent. I wish I’d gotten comfortable with it sooner.