vulnerability

I believe that sexual pleasure with someone else can only truly be found through vulnerability, through the radical act of maybe not knowing, in being willing to potentially even embarrass yourself in the pursuit of something greater.

Before I say anything else, I know the answer to every question related to sex with an “Is it normal?” in it is something you’re supposed to answer yes to, and if you don’t, it can be perceived as not being nice or trying to hurt someone’s feelings. But please understand that “normal” isn’t a word I…

Whether a person is having issues with trust due to sexual abuse or any other reason under the sun, I really like how Staci Haines, in The Survivor’s Guide to Sex, concisely outlines three basic factors for trust. She talks about competency, consistency over time, and congruency between words and…

Here’s the kicker: there’s nothing we can do or know which will guarantee that a partner will enjoy something we do. Nothing. One facet of readiness for partnered sex has to do with being able to accept that and be okay with it. Another part is knowing that no matter what we do, there are probably…

You know, partnered sex when everyone is fully present, and people start getting more and more emotionally close means that we’re going to be more exposed – emotionally speaking, as well as when it comes to our more authentic sexuality, and more vulnerable. It’s understandably intimidating, and…