reality

Part two of Alice O's exploration of mainstream porn to help increase your sexual media literacy. Includes information about sex positions, orgasm, consent and communication, boundaries, birth control, safer sex and more as they exist (or don't!) in mainstream porn, and how this can or should all go in real-life-sex to compare and contrast.

A clear-eyed, in-depth exploration of mainstream porn that can: amp up your sexual media literacy so you can better suss out what's really going on with and in porn, fill you in on how it may or may not -- and sometimes just plain shouldn't -- match your expectations or experiences of sexuality offscreen, and tell you more about its politics and behind-the-scenes realities.

and Nadine asks, My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a month and to be fair we have only tried five times. The last time we tried I was completely aroused and when we started actually having sex it was fine at first. However, after some time my arousal suddenly went away for no apparent...

I'm going to assume that when you say "sex" you're talking about vaginal intercourse. If your boyfriend is going to have partners with vaginas who experience pleasure with sex, he's going to have to adjust his way of thinking. Most people with vaginas -- around 70% -- are NOT going to reach orgasm...

You know, I really wish I could get a hold of whomever started this obsession with vaginal "tightness" and have a few choice words with them. Most of the words I'd have to say would not be very nice. But since that person is not here right now, all I can do is try to clear up a few of the...

A candid memoir of first-time intercourse from the founder of Scarleteen.