readiness

If he wants to wait until marriage and you don't or feel you can't, then this isn't the person for you to be pursuing a sexual relationship with, because you two very obviously have strongly conflicting wants and needs. Talking to him isn't likely to net the results you want, either -- if he's solid...

It's a pretty mixed message to tell someone they're perfect, then tell them that you're only interested in engaging in a certain sexual activity with them if they look a certain way per your liking (shaved, unshaved, what have you). Sex with partners shouldn't have entry requirements based on what a...

Any way you do it, however you define it. In other words, what "sex" even IS varies pretty widely from person-to-person and day-to-day, and can be or include ANY number of sexual activities. Intercourse is sex, but so is oral sex, anal sex, manual sex, making out, frottage, role play, cybersex...

You know, "slut" is both a really subjective and often a really derogatory term. A lot of people use it out of spite, because they're afraid of sexuality (or, more accurately, women's or queer sexuality), and because they're afraid of people who enjoy it, and on some level, perhaps, secretly jealous...

Hanne Blank is not a virgin. (She's almost 37 and she's been living with her life partner for nine years -- we just thought we'd get that out of the way.) But she is a historian, a writer, and an expert on virginity, having written the first-ever history of the subject, "Virgin: The Untouched History."

Thinking about partnered sex? Do yourself a favor and look through our checklist to get a good idea about the readiness of you and your partner -- it's more complicated and demanding than many people think, and knowing what you need to get ready can help assure that your sexual experiences with a partner will be as great for both of you as possible.