readiness

Know what? While alcohol can reduce a person’s inhibitions, another thing it often does reduce how aroused – how turned on – a person can get. It also tends to inhibit orgasm, as well as vaginal lubrication. And that’s just the minor stuff. Date rape is far more common when alcohol is involved…

Before the two of you do anything sexual, I’d say it’s REALLY important that you work out the issue of him seeing sex as a way for you to prove your love. It’s not. Take a look at the bare basics from our Sex Readiness Checklist: If either of you wants to do it because you feel you must or should…

(Eoin’s questions continued…) 1) Abstinence-until-marriage is not superior (this will also come up later with respect to “the parents” and other concerns with my girlfriend); is it such a big deal if I have sex with my girlfriend tomorrow, in a couple months, or several years from now, including…

It won’t do you harm that once, nor will using emergency contraception more than once: there isn’t any data at this time which shows single or repeat use presents health risks beyond those we see with other hormonal BC. You can take a look at this page or this one for more information on EC…

Good on you for being proactive! A huge marker of sexual readiness is sussing this stuff out before anything happens, so you two are definitely on your way there. The absolute BEST way to avoid the unpleasant consequences of sexual activity is to use a condom, correctly, every time. Condoms are easy…

There isn’t anything TO do save to wait for when she does also want to have sex with you. Really, have a think about this. Would you want it any other way? Who would want to have sex with someone who didn’t want to have sex with them just as much? And unless both people really want to, is it really…

The first thing you need to do is take a deep breath and try to relax here. Panic rarely helps anyone, it’s just not going to do you any good. So let’s break down the situation and look at what’s really going on here. First, I know you’re worried about the manual sex (“fingering”) you participated…

I’m sorry that you’re having to go through this. Looking at the timing here, and what you’re describing, it does sound like you had your menstrual period, in which case no, you cannot be pregnant. Not knowing the length of your cycles, or the date of that last period, I can’t tell you when to expect…

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this, confused. You know, most of what many people think about virginity just isn’t accurate. And really, in so many ways, most ideas about virginity, and dynamics of virginity are sexist, have done a lot of women real harm through history and are…well…

No one should have to do anything sexually that doesn’t feel natural and right for them in order to keep a partner. And if your partnership really hinges on being ” a freak” in bed, or behaving in a way your boyfriend wants, but just isn’t really you or about you, you really, truly are better off…