pleasure

Sex isn’t a tit-for-tat experience, but communicating can help you build a mutually pleasurable and fun sex life.

It sounds like you’ve put a lot of thought into what you want from a romantic and sexual relationship, and that’s great! It’s always good to spend some time figuring out what you want and need before you start a relationship. By knowing yourself and your boundaries, you’ve got a solid foundation for…

A lot of people are talking about “bad sex” when they mean coercive sex. So let’s have a conversation about when sex just isn’t satisfying.

Surviving in the sexual wilds – and having your great adventures be just that, great – involves some basic smarts, skills and conscious effort. Let’s see what we can do to help make all your trails happy ones.

Ready to take #MeToo to the next level?

I want to first reassure you that I’m sure you’re not doing anything wrong, and that this isn’t about something being wrong with you. That includes whatever level of desire — or frequency of desire — you find you have for sex in general or with a partner. I also don’t think this is probably just…

Nondisabled people sometimes assume masturbation is a snap, but for some of us, it can be more challenging. That doesn’t mean it’s impossible.

Rule #1 of partnered sex: no one is entitled to any kind of sex with another person. Safe, healthy, pleasurable sex can only happen when both people are on the same page, and they respect each other’s boundaries and desires. Honestly, what I read in your question are many feelings of anger and…

If by sex, you mean intercourse, you probably can’t. Even if you could, you or your partner probably wouldn’t enjoy it: the idea intercourse is something people do – or even can do, or would enjoy if they could – for an hour or two just doesn’t square with reality. A lot of people have unrealistic…

Before I say anything else (and I’ve got a lot, so go on and put your feet up: this is big stuff, so you deserve big responses), I want to make a couple things super-clear. One: you get to have whatever kind of mutually consensual sexual life it turns out feels right for you, even if that turned out…