desire

Well, it’s important to remember that bodies are not machines and they’re not exactly the same all the time. Just like many other things in our lives, our desire for sexual activity can wax and wane over time. In other words, everybody goes through periods where they may be interested in sex (of any…

It’s really normal, as a relationship goes on over time, for sex to take a bit more of a backseat. It’s also common for things to be very high-key sexually when people first start dating. Novelty – something or someone being new – tends to put a high into many people’s sex drives, and when that…

Before we get into anything else, I want to debunk a few things you’ve said here that don’t have any real basis. He wants more sex than me. Big surprise. He’s a man. Men don’t automatically want more sex than women. Not all men and all women, not even most men and most women. Mind, we can say that…

In this post, all I’ve heard about is what your boyfriend likes and wants. You haven’t said a thing about what YOU like and YOU want, and that concerns me. So, I really hope that any sex you’re having is just as much about what you want, what you need, and what you enjoy. To have a healthy sexual…

You know, when we’re just plain horny – rather than interested in really sharing sex, emotionally and physically, with another person – the best choice to make is to masturbate. That’s not just best for us, it’s also better for any potential partners: if often isn’t so great to be someone’s…

Well, if you’re just feeling strong sexual desire, not any attachment to that particular person, then masturbation is generally the best solution. Really, that’s the thing to do, always, when we don’t want intimacy with someone else, but only or solely want to just satisfy our own sexual needs and…

Everyone’s libido varies, as does everyone’s sexuality. In other words, the sexual appetite of a person isn’t determined by their biological sex or gender. Some women have lower libidos than some men; some men have lower libidos than some women. Too, these things also vary based on the specific two…

There’s nothing like starting to put together all of the myriad complexities, preferences and desires of our sexuality to point out how silly it really is to suggest that human sexuality, sexual orientation or gender can be easily divided into such tiny boxes, is there? The short of it is that I…

A young person is very unlikely to need or benefit from hormone therapy to help with sexual desire. And if she’s already been on many different types of birth control pills, it’s relatively safe to say that if hormonal BC is the issue here, then her best bet is to switch to another contraceptive…

That’s pretty normal as partners get more comfortable having sex together, so you should let him know that doesn’t mean anything is wrong. But if he’s not satisfied with that, the trick generally is just to mix it up: to mix in way more activities than intercourse, and to focus on his whole body…