communication

A short, fast, sex ed summary about the bare basics of healthy relationships.

Disabled people get a lot of practice telling people about our bodies: doctors, therapists, care workers, or people in our support networks like family and friends. It’s so important to be able to tell our partners how to support and pleasure us in the ways that work for us, but even though we’ve got all that practice, this conversation can still be really hard to start. Here’s some help.

Depending on your disability, everything involving sex may require help – and if your parent is your primary caregiver, bringing up these topics (let alone asking for assistance with them) is not an easy task.

We’ve created this guide to let you know that if you’re experiencing any kind of pelvic pain, we believe you, and to let you know that you are not alone. While chronic pain (including pain with sex) is common, it is not “normal.” If it hurts, it’s usually because something is wrong.

I love this question, because it’s something I think doesn’t get discussed enough, and while I think the answer is fairly simple, that doesn’t mean it’s easy. I know the thought of asking someone out can be intimidating even to people who’ve done it before, so when you haven’t had any experience…

There isn’t a one-size-fits-all process for tackling this issue, but here’s a little help from one person with Autism to another, so you can figure out some concrete ways of scaling what can feel like an immense social mountain.

Reclaiming your sexuality after sexual abuse can be complicated. Your previous partner has left you with a whole mess of shame and trauma. None of this is your fault, he is the one who chose to hurt and manipulate you, I’m sorry that you had to go through that and are now facing the work of picking…

You’re facing down a process that, according to a bazillion sitcoms and teen dramas, ought to fill you with dread: introducing the person you’re dating to your parents and trying to peacefully navigate their feelings about your budding romance.

You are not being unreasonable. I don’t think his response and behavior about the lube is fine. I don’t think it’s okay for him to tell you that not having sex isn’t a big deal for you, or to tell you how important sex is to your relationship for both of you. I don’t think it’s fine for him to be…

Sex isn’t a tit-for-tat experience, but communicating can help you build a mutually pleasurable and fun sex life.