vaginismus

My brain was ready, but my body was not. As sweetly as possible, my boyfriend said the words that would change my life: “I think we should call it a night, and you should take some time to figure out what’s going on down there.”

I’d like to focus this on the three primary issues you brought up here: your need for basic physical affection, your problem with upholding your own boundaries, and your ideas about how without intercourse, the sex you or anyone else are having cannot possibly satisfy either of you. On all of those…