story

I am bigender. I identify as both a woman and as nonbinary, and I use she/they pronouns. I wanted to write about how I came to understand my gender to do my part to showcase how unique each experience can be.

Never believe: “I love you, it will never happen again.” It will happen again. The tears don’t matter, the bruises don’t matter, the broken bones and ER visits and warnings from friends and relatives don’t matter. Those scars that we bury deep inside us, the mental and emotional scars that we try to pretend don’t exist – they don’t matter. It will happen, again and again and again, unless someone puts a stop to it.