slut shaming

DebbieK’s question continued: I was (and still am) a virgin and I had never done sex of any kind (oral, anal, etc.) but I had been a sexual person since I was a kid. I masturbated all the time when I was younger because it felt good but I didn’t associate it with sex until I was around 13. This…

The idea that women who sexually express themselves in any number of ways – like something as simple as expressing sexual desires to a partner through words, be it in speech or text – are sluts, people without or with less value or only sexual value, “bad” women or any of the other crappy things…

Many people feel they’d like to reproduce, parent, or both in their lives. I wouldn’t say either of those things – that it’s “slutty” or “weird” – are true about these feelings and desires, whatever your age. I’d say the feelings you’re having are some of the most common human wants there are, and…

I wish that I knew more about your relationship and your boyfriend than just this particular conflict. It’d also help to know what a word like “slutty” even means to him. After all, slut is one of those words that’s a lot like the word god: what it means to one person can be radically different than…