self-esteem

(Jasmine’s question continued)I have no idea what to do. I mean it is just a little money…we’ve already had sex and now we understand that he want to be together for ever. He even told his parents about me, which was hard because they are as strict as hell. But I don’t want to give him anything…

Who says you’re not as hot as someone who weighs less than you, gal? In other words, it’s entirely possible this guy is attracted to a hot girl: you. Not everyone shares the same aesthetics when it comes to who we’re attracted to, nor does everyone subscribe to a given set of beauty ideals or…

Can you see your double-standard here? You don’t reach orgasm during sex, but say that you enjoy and want it all the same. Even knowing that – assuming it’s true, and not just something you’re saying because you think you’re supposed to – you’re presuming that because he isn’t reaching orgasm, he…

It sounds to me like this is really about you more than it is about him. The person having trouble with his history right now appears to be you, and that’s the person who I think needs to work through this. In other words, you say he won’t open up about this, but I’m not sure I can envision what you…

I can certainly do my best. Let’s start with the basics. Thing is, “premature ejaculation” is actually not the best term in the world, because it is seriously vague and incredibly arbitrary. I can tell you that I run too slow, for instance, and what you’re likely going to ask me is “Compared to who…

You don’t have an unusually small penis: you have an average sized penis. On average, the penis is between five and six inches in length, and four inches and five and a half in girth. See? Average. As well, weight loss doesn’t impact penis size. The penis can look larger with eight loss simply due…

Whether or not you’re going to believe me, I’ll be plain with you anyway. Your lack of confidence and low self-esteem are ALWAYS going to be a WAY bigger impediment to “getting the attention,” and more importantly, to having great relationships with romantic partners AND friends…and most…

Phew! This is a lot of information – and that’s helpful – but there is also a lot to address in here. I’m seeing an awful lot of unrealistic expectations, from you and from your girlfriend, so I’d like to speak to those. Unrealistic expectations about sex really can make the sex we’re having be a…

Well, it might help to start by simply acknowledging - or reminding yourself – that there is no one “best” or “right” body type. Clearly, you feel yours isn’t – and that’s understandable in a world so messed up about looks – but without external messages that something was wrong with your body…

A guy thinking that would be similar to someone from one culture looking at someone of another, who looks different or unfamililar, and presuming that because someone looks different from what they look like, or what they know or expect, that that person isn’t normal. Just as when that’s the case…