safer sex

If that’s truly the case – if any two people have had NO sexual contact of any kind with other partners – then, for the most part, either of them having a sexually transmitted infection is highly unlikely. It’s never sage to just presume someone has no STIs without having had any testing, but in…

and Nadine asks, My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a month and to be fair we have only tried five times. The last time we tried I was completely aroused and when we started actually having sex it was fine at first. However, after some time my arousal suddenly went away for no apparent…

The problem with asking someone else how to do something that’s just for and about yourself is that you know better than anyone else what’s best. But we can certainly fill you in on some basics. Includes the skinny on masturbation and UTIs, bleeding during masturbation and on finding masturbation just isn’t doing the trick.

Whenever you or a partner are being treated for an STI or any infection, it’s best to hold off all sexual activity until you are sure everything is clear and healed up. Even if your symptoms seem to have disappeared, it can take your bodies a while to completely clear the infection and get back to…

The short answer is… when she’s okay with or wants a pregnancy or a sexually transmitted infection. Here’s the longer answer, since it’s a bit more complicated than that. To get you up-to-speed with the basic facts, when it comes to pregnancy, of every 100 women who have vaginal intercourse…

Kasey: before I say anything else, let me just say that I’m very sorry this all went down this way for you. You holding back tears while continuing to give someone oral sex (which disturbs me), your husband having intercourse with someone else and you feeling unable to say anything, your feelings of…

How about something like this: “Hey, I know we should have talked about this before, but since we’ve been having sex without condoms, I need us to talk about safer sex now. I don’t want either of us to be taking risks when we don’t have to, or when we should reduce them, so can we talk about this a…

Did your doctor have a discussion with you about the fact that your boyfriend may already have HPV? If you have been with him for a long time, and only recently was your HPV detected (particularly if you’ve been good about your STI testing and pap smears before now), you may well have gotten it from…

Unfortunately, we don’t come with an “oven ready” light that lets us know any medication we’re taking is working. This includes birth control pills. So the only thing you really can do is make sure you’re taking your pills correctly (same time everyday, not doing/taking anything to interfere, etc.)…

If you’re not comfortable with anything sexual at any time, then the answer is always to make clear to a partner that you aren’t comfortable with what they want, and wait until you are comfortable with whatever that thing is. If you never are, that’s okay. It’s pretty rare that any two people will…