People tend to forget that young men often may not even be at the stage in their sexual development where erections happen often or easily or where they can yet ejaculate. Some guys are just starting puberty at 14 or 15. Your boyfriend simply may not be at this stage in his development yet. But...
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- Heather Corinna
Can you see your double-standard here? You don't reach orgasm during sex, but say that you enjoy and want it all the same. Even knowing that -- assuming it's true, and not just something you're saying because you think you're supposed to -- you're presuming that because he isn't reaching orgasm, he...
- Heather Corinna
You know, while five years isn't a big age difference between people who are, say 35 and 40, it can be a lot bigger between people who are 15 and 20. Think abut it like this: at 20, your boyfriend has literally already lived 25% longer than you have, just a little less than you've outlived someone...
- Sarah Riley
Virginity, in and of itself, is a societal concept not a medical one. Certainly there used to be the thought that as long as a woman had a hymen, she was a virgin (and unfortunately some people still subscribe to this belief). However, a hymen is just thin, flexible folds of mucous tissue that...
- Heather Corinna
Readiness for sex isn't something that only happens once, or happens once at a certain age. It can be normal at any age, in any situation, for any person not to feel ready for any kind of sex with a partner. When we're first ready is going to vary a lot from person to person, based on our life...
- Sarah Riley
A couple of years ago, I learned to knit and I got really really interested in knitting. Anytime I was sitting still (and sometimes when I was moving) I was knitting. But then, after a while, I sorta stopped getting that urge to knit everytime I sat still. It wasn't that I didn't enjoy knitting. It...
- Heather Corinna
Looking at what you've posted, and given he knows that not only does anal sex not feel good for you, it causes you pain, I'd be inclined to agree that there's probably something very unhealthy going on here interpersonally. It doesn't make a lot of sense to give someone tips on how to do something...
- Heather Corinna
Before the two of you do anything sexual, I'd say it's REALLY important that you work out the issue of him seeing sex as a way for you to prove your love. It's not. Take a look at the bare basics from our Sex Readiness Checklist: If either of you wants to do it because you feel you must or should...
- Heather Corinna
Of all the antidepressants around, Zoloft is actually most often linked to sexual side effects, and inability to reach orgasm, ejaculate with orgasm, erectile dysfunction and impaired libido (sexual drive) are common effects of Zoloft (and other SSRIs). So, since that is a very likely possibility...
- Heather Corinna
I can certainly do my best. Let's start with the basics. Thing is, "premature ejaculation" is actually not the best term in the world, because it is seriously vague and incredibly arbitrary. I can tell you that I run too slow, for instance, and what you're likely going to ask me is "Compared to who...