pleasure

There’s a lot to talk about here. Let’s start by addressing and dealing with your risks. It sounds to me like you’re both so unaware of your own anatomy, and were so unfamiliar with what any given kind of sex might feel like that there’s no way either of us can say if you only had anal intercourse…

That all depends on what having it be special really means to you. I know that might sound trite, but we’re all just so different, and what’s meaningful to us varies so much that not knowing anything at all about you before now, what might be special to you isn’t something I can speak to with any…

There is no one sexual activity, nor any one way to engage in any one sexual activity, which will guarantee orgasm or ejaculation for any given person, or for any given person every time. Plenty of people with penises will reach orgasm and ejaculate with oral sex, though many of those people won’t…

It’s the position that you and your partner find immensely pleasurable at that moment in place and time. The answer to your question is going to change based on where you are, how you’re feeling, and who you’re with. So you and your partner get to figure out what’s working and what’s not. If…

Jules: what you’re asking is obviously something I’m not going to be able to sum up in one page. Partnered sex and all of sexuality is a huge topic! But what I can do is set you up with some primers to get you started, and give you some context so that it all makes more sense. How you have sex with…

I hear people talking about foreplay and pretend like I know what it is, but I have never really understood. Heather Corinna answers this question about foreplay.

It’s not bad at ALL to have laughter be part of your sex life: it’s ideal. Laughter is an expression of joy, after all, and ideally, sex should be an expression of joy, too. Nervous laughter is also okay: sex with a partner can make us feel anxious, nervous, or highly excited and it’s normal for…

Fantastic question! It’s so important for people to remember that usually when we’re looking to engage in activities of any kind where there are some risks of negative or unwanted outcomes, it’s usually because we also want to take risks of discovering or getting some positive or wanted outcomes. If…

It feels good. The species would have a little trouble propagating if we didn’t enjoy mating. By nature, sexual pleasure is the incentive that encourages us to make more of ourselves. That’s quite good for the species – so much so that I think humans may have done too good a job of it. But…

You’ll probably be surprised to know that this is a pretty common question with an answer that may be unexpected based on what we’ve been taught about how things “should” go. The first thing you really need to understand when you’re thinking about this is that the vaginal canal itself is not…