pain

You know, it actually isn’t “cute” to not understand your own body. It’s pretty tragic, and for the person who doesn’t understand, it doesn’t tend to feel cute. It can even feel pretty scary, especially if and when you’re doing things – or someone else is – with that anatomy you can’t or don’t…

There sure is! Per your cramps, it partially depends on why you’re having them. So, the first thing you will want to do, especially if they are severe, and if you have other menstrual issues, is to check in with your gynecologist or other reproductive health professional and make sure you don’t have…

It sounds like he’s ramming into your cervix. A lot of people with vaginas really don’t like that ‘cause it can be painful. Look at this diagram from Innies & Outies and notice how the vagina ends at the tip of the cervix. The vagina is only about 4 or 5 inches deep, so if a penis is longer than…

It’s so tragic that anyone is afraid to ask questions about something so important, but it’s an unfortunate reality for a lot of people. Just know that this isn’t a place where you need to be scared to ask anything, okay? This is what we’re here for! Is intercourse supposed to hurt? No, intercourse…

Sometimes, when we perceive pain before it happens, we feel pain because (primarily) of that perception. It’s called a perceived pain event when that happens. Suffice it to say, that happens a LOT to a lot of women with first intercourse because of all the stories we hear about how terribly painful…

I’d divide your questions into two groups here: the things you need to ask someone else, and the things you need to ask your girlfriend (and listen to her about). Let’s start with the first group. Per spermicides, in general, if you can avoid using them, you want to avoid using them. Not only are…

It’s not naive to be without information because no one gave it to you. As far as the ovulation cycle, I sure can! Start by having a look at this: On the Rag: A Guide to Menstruation. The way to know if you’re ovulating – or, more accurately, to be able to make your best guess – is to start…

Well, the first place I’d start is by having a good look at these four pieces here and sharing them with your spouse: Yield for Pleasure Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide First Intercourse 101 From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse Why did I link you to that first piece? In part…

For what it’s worth, I’m not Heather, but I am a health department professional. And I’m sorry you’re stressed out with this BV and testing and so forth. I hope you can take some time out and chill, get the moral support you need for all of that stuff. Got a truly trusted friend who can talk to you…

I’m sorry you had such a bad experience. However, please understand that that bad experience did not likely cause permanent changes to your vulva or vagina. While certainly, if you were tense or underlubricated, that could have caused a tear to the tissue of the vaginal corona, which may cause mild…